Katie's blog

That’s Not Funny!

      The more you can see things from another perspective, the more creativity you can access. If you can let go of a position, even a position that appears correct, right, and logical, the more genuine harmony you generate in your relationships. Unfortunately, that skill hasn’t been highly valued historically in close partnerships.

The Wisdom of Listening to Your Body

     On a recent radio interview the host asked, “How can body wisdom improve your relationship? What does body awareness have to do with getting along with a partner?”  As I took in her words I realized that most people have not experienced the power of living consciously in their bodies. I quickly scanned (what else?) my body to access the clearest response to her question.

Relationship Lessons From Lucy: Getting Attention

   You may know that our beloved Persian/Himalayan, Lucy, has been our companion for over thirteen years now. She is a great communicator: patient, persistent (but not pesky). In fact, I’ve learned so much from Lucy about creating conscious relationships, I wanted to pass on her most powerful lessons. 

“It’s Easy For You to Say…” How We Came To Where We Are With Daily Choices
     Many years ago at a summer seminar in Colorado, a group of us were talking over dinner.  I remember sharing how much daily joy I experienced and how abundant my life felt. A young woman across the table said, “That’s easy for you to say—you’ve got a rich husband!” Before I could lunge across the table at her in indignant rage, I took a breath.

Starting The Day With A Wonder Question

Several years ago I began adding wonder to my morning practice of stretching and meditating. Rather than ride along on the automatic thought stream, I began dropping wonder pebbles into the flow and letting expanded possibility spread out through the day. Here are some of my favorites.

My Husband Loves My Thighs…

Or, My Ideas About The Perfect Body Meet Reality

The statistics are alarming. Most women think their bodies are wrong in a variety of ways. Mostly, they think, “too fat.”  But they also think, “too short, too tall, not shaped right,” and dozens of other “too muches.”  Women know on the one hand that they’re being fed this nonsense by advertising and other media, where size 0 women model clothes that the average size 12 women sees day after day.  But even though we know this intellectually, the pull to criticize and demean the body we got handed careens around the emotional part of the brain where the memories live.  As a child I got teased by my brothers over the shape of my legs: “piano legs was one of the taunts.  I watched the lithe dancer bodies in gym in high school and  thought, why not me? Why did I get THIS rather sumo-legged shape? I even wrote a poem about my body several years ago that contains these lines:

Love Is The Best Medicine For Fear

From helping several thousand single and divorced people attract conscious, healthy relationships into their lives, we have developed an unshakeable confidence in the power of love to create miracles of lasting relationship.

15 Reasons People Don't Tell The Truth

We're big advocates for speaking honestly in close relationships. In counseling thousands of couples, we've seen an incredible amount of destruction wrought by hiding significant truths. Why do so many of us find it so hard to speak honestly in our intimate relationships? In our Couples Course, we put a big piece of paper on the wall, and invited participants to list all the reasons they had used to avoid telling some significant truth in a close relationship. Here's the Top 15:

1. I don't want to hurt your feelings.

The Art Of Conscious Loving

We are celebrating our 29th anniversary of living and working together. People are often surprised to hear that we are just as passionate about creating conscious relationships as the day we first made a commitment to each other. Every week we find ourselves learning new ways to make life more love-filled and fulfilling. That's one of the magnificent aspects of relationships and life: there's no upper limit on how much love, fun and creativity you can manifest.