Frank Answers Top Questions
What vision do you have for your life and your coaching practice?
My main mission in life is to raise consciousness in myself, others and the world. To me, Gandhi’s quote, “We must be the change we wish to see in the world” really says it all. How can we expect to end wars across the sea if we cannot first make peace across the street with our very own neighbors or even with our very own “selves”? If we shift our focus away from blaming everyone “out there” for all the ills of the world, and instead cultivate peace, love and responsibility within ourselves, then fear, hate and aggression wouldn’t stand a chance…and the ills of the world may simply go into spontaneous remission. Who’s in?
What are the top three things you love about coaching?
I love the aliveness I feel working at the root level of existence tapping into the matrix of the universe & Source itself. I’m so grateful for that.
I love being an unconditional loving presence with those I work with…feeling the impact this makes and witnessing profound learning, healing and transformation. (Speaking of unconditional love, isn’t this ultimately what we all want? So why not give it to ourselves and others on a regular basis, not just special occasions? Huh, why…no really why?
I love the mysteries that are presented and then graciously unraveled in front of our very own eyes, ears and soul. God’s a very good writer.
Before I started coaching I …>
was preparing myself to start coaching
What makes you laugh?
Most everything makes me laugh nowadays. Seriously, even things like spilling milk. One cool side effect to this conscious living stuff is that now when I “mess up” or have a momentary lapse, my first response is typically laughter. (After a while you get to learn that humor truly is the best response for the buck.) Then with enough practice, the laughter actually becomes quite involuntary. (I realize to an unsuspecting bystander, this may simply come across as nuts. Oh well.) Of course, my daughter’s laugh also really makes me laugh. It would make you laugh too. Laughter is truly contagious. Hmm, could this be the ultimate weapon…laugh bombs? Now that’s something I’d be happy to support with my tax dollars.
The legacy I want to leave behind is …
a satchel of tools that help people live consciously…while perhaps, at the same time, put a smile on their face.
Who are your top three people you would want to coach and why?
Two people who just popped into my head are Jim Carrey and Alanis Morissette. Not that I think they need coaching, but I have a feeling they would both be a lot of fun to explore the boundaries of consciousness with, while having some great laughs. So James…Alanis…if this sounds fun to you too, give me a call already! Of course, I’m delighted to work with anyone who’s willing and committed to exploring and learning.
What were the greatest benefits you received from studying at the Hendricks Institute?
I’ve received so many wonderful gifts from the Hendricks. I love the way they deal with seemingly heavy issues in brilliant lightness, and how they beautifully model unconditional presence, acceptance and love.
What brings you the most joy in your day to day life?
To be doing what I’m doing.
The movie that inspired me most was _______. Why?
I’m not sure. I’d like to say that’s because I only dwell in the present and don’t concern myself with subjects of the past! But in truth, I don’t have much of a memory for those kinds of things. I will tell you this…I do tear up at most “kid” movies. My daughter thinks that’s funny and laughs at me. Then that makes me laugh. That brings us back to the whole laughing being contagious thing.
Hmm, I love so many books. Some of my favorite authors are: Deepak Chopra, Gay & Kathlyn Hendricks, Eckhart Tolle, Gregg Braden, Bruce Lipton and John Welwood.
How In The Heaven Did I Get Here?
Well, I didn’t set out to be a coach for conscious living. On second thought, perhaps I did. From an early age, I could observe in others who they really were and what their essence was. If only I was as gifted in spotting those things in myself! Flash forward to eight years ago when I finally grew tired of not fully living from my essence as parts of me were still hidden and limiting me. At last, I chose to acknowledge that and was willing to learn and grow. Whamo. Ask and ye shall receive, right? I had just finished reading Conscious Loving and I thought to myself…this is some pretty good #@&!…at that moment I got the impulse (AND FOLLOWED IT) to see what these authors (Gay & Katie Hendricks) were all about. I noticed that they were headquartered relatively close to me and as luck would have it, they happened to be hosting one of their life-changing conferences a few days later. I signed up on the spot.
Flash forward again—this time through a couple years of profound learning and growing. After witnessing many life-changing moments (oftentimes literally occurring in just one minute) in myself and others, I became real curious about how and when these moments came about. And actually, it was one of Gay Hendricks’ life-changing moments that really struck me. How does a 300 pound miserable college student smoking two packs or Marlboro’s a day end up becoming one on the most influential transformational leaders of our time? (If you’d like to read a synopsis of his life-changing moment, check out
I was so captivated by this phenomenon, I decided to put together a book of life-changing moments. My intent was to uncover common themes that led to these moments and also inspire and give hope to those in perhaps similar situations. A sneak peak of the findings you say? Okay, well for one thing, as you may have guessed, suffering often preceded these moments—but is suffering required for transformation? Nope. Oftentimes suffering simply leads to more suffering. So what is it then? Well, it’s true that suffering can make us more receptive to take a step into the zone of transformation. And what kind of zone is that? It’s a rich and fertile environment with a wondrous mix of surrender, acknowledgment and acceptance, non-defensiveness and openness to learning…to name a few. But here’s the fun secret…we can skip suffering altogether and delve directly into the zone of transformation at WILL, even joyfully. Cool eh? So here I am today, full circle, once again assisting others live from their essence…only this time I’ve brought myself along for the ride…which indeed, could definitely be called…a joy ride
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